How to Use a Strap On Dildo: A Step-by-Step Guide

Exploring a strap on dildo can open up a world of intimate possibilities, whether you're looking to try pegging, enhance role-play, or simply enjoy a different kind of stimulation. For many, the idea can feel a bit intimidating at first, but with the right guidance and a little practice, it becomes a rewarding and enjoyable experience. This step-by-step guide is designed to help beginners navigate the process with confidence, from choosing the right harness to mastering the movements.

At V-Unique South Africa, we believe that sexual wellness is a personal journey, and our goal is to provide you with practical, honest advice. In this guide, we'll walk you through everything you need to know about using a strap on dildo, including preparation, insertion, and finding comfortable positions. We'll also highlight some of our favorite products that can make the experience even better.

Choosing the Right Strap On Dildo

The first step to a great strap on experience is selecting the right equipment. The harness should fit snugly but comfortably around your waist and hips, with adjustable straps to ensure a secure fit. Look for a harness that is easy to put on and take off, and consider whether you prefer a brief-style or a more minimal design. The dildo itself should be made of body-safe materials like silicone, which is non-porous and easy to clean.

For beginners, we recommend starting with a dildo that is not too large in diameter or length. A moderate size, such as the 'BSwish Bcute Classic Pearl' in purple, offers a smooth texture and a gentle curve that can stimulate the G-spot or prostate without overwhelming. Alternatively, the 'Stick G-Spot Vibrator' is another excellent choice, as it features a flexible design that adapts to your body's contours. Remember, you can always upgrade to a larger size later if you desire.

• Ensure the harness is adjustable for a custom fit.
• Opt for body-safe materials like silicone.
• Start with a smaller dildo to build comfort.

Preparing for Use

Preparation is key to a comfortable and enjoyable experience. Begin by cleaning your strap on dildo with a toy cleaner or mild soap and warm water. This not only ensures hygiene but also helps the toy glide smoothly. If you plan to use the dildo anally, consider using a lubricant specifically designed for anal play, as it is thicker and lasts longer. For vaginal use, a water-based lubricant is usually sufficient.

Next, create a relaxed environment. Communication with your partner is essential; discuss boundaries, safe words, and any concerns you might have. A relaxed body and mind will make the experience more pleasurable. You might also want to engage in foreplay to help both partners feel aroused and comfortable. Remember, the strap on is an extension of your body, so take your time to get used to the sensation of wearing it.

• Always clean your toys before and after use.
• Use a generous amount of lubricant to reduce friction.
• Talk openly with your partner about comfort and desires.

How to Put on the Strap On

Putting on a strap on dildo is straightforward once you understand the mechanics. First, adjust the harness to fit your waist and hips. Most harnesses have adjustable straps that you can tighten or loosen for a secure fit. Slide the dildo through the O-ring or attachment point on the harness, ensuring it is firmly in place. Some harnesses have interchangeable rings to accommodate different dildo sizes.

Once the dildo is attached, put on the harness like you would a pair of underwear. Adjust the straps so that the dildo sits at a comfortable angle, pointing slightly upward. This angle is more natural for penetration. Take a few steps to ensure the harness doesn't shift and that you feel secure. It's also a good idea to practice some movements, like thrusting, to get a feel for the motion before you engage with your partner.

• Tighten straps evenly to avoid discomfort.
• Test the fit by moving around before use.
• Adjust the angle of the dildo for optimal comfort.

Step-by-Step Guide to Using the Strap On

Now that you're ready, let's walk through the actual use. Start with your partner in a comfortable position, such as lying on their back with knees bent or on all fours. Apply a generous amount of lubricant to the dildo and your partner's entrance. Begin with gentle pressure, allowing your partner to guide the pace. Communication is crucial; check in regularly to ensure they are comfortable and enjoying themselves.

Once inserted, you can experiment with different thrusting speeds and angles. For beginners, a slow and steady rhythm is often best. Focus on the sensation and the connection with your partner. If you're using a vibrating dildo, like the 'Rocks-Off Two-Vibe' in burgundy, you can turn on the vibration for added stimulation. Remember to maintain a good grip on the harness for control, and switch positions if needed to find what works best for both of you.

• Start with slow, shallow thrusts to build confidence.
• Use your hands to guide the dildo for precise movement.
• Try different positions like missionary or doggy style.

Tips for a Better Experience

To enhance your strap on experience, consider incorporating other elements. Use a lubricant like '200ml-Unique Massage Oil' to add a sensual touch to the whole body, or 'EROTIC MASSAGE OIL' for a warming sensation. These can make the experience more intimate and pleasurable. Additionally, you might want to try a vibrating cock ring, such as the 'Rocks-Off Bad-Boy 7' in black, which can provide stimulation for the wearer during use.

Aftercare is just as important as the act itself. Clean your toys thoroughly and store them properly. Take time to cuddle and check in with your partner. Discuss what you enjoyed and what you might want to try next time. This not only strengthens your bond but also helps you refine your technique for future sessions. Remember, practice makes perfect, and every couple is different.

• Incorporate massage oils for added sensuality.
• Use a vibrating cock ring for wearer stimulation.
• Practice aftercare to enhance intimacy.

Using a strap on dildo can be a deeply rewarding experience for you and your partner. With the right equipment, preparation, and communication, you can explore new dimensions of pleasure safely and comfortably. At V-Unique South Africa, we offer a range of harnesses, dildos, and accessories to suit every need. Remember to start slow, stay open, and enjoy the journey.